Boundaries You Can Actually Keep When You’re Tired
Let’s be honest: boundaries feel easy to talk about and hard to keep when you’re exhausted. And most people never say this part out loud. Boundaries take energy. Boundaries require follow through. Boundaries require you to choose yourself even when doing so feels uncomfortable.
And tired women, especially tired Black women, often don’t have energy to spare.
What This Really Means
Real boundaries aren’t about rigid rules. They’re about protecting your peace in ways that match your actual capacity. You do not need to build a wall. You need small, sustainable guardrails.
Why We Struggle With This
When you’re the one who everyone comes to, saying “no” or “not today” feels like you’re letting people down. And if you grew up being the person who fixes everything, setting boundaries feels unnatural, even selfish.
What Healing Looks Like
Saying “I’m available later, not right now.”
Choosing one thing to say yes to instead of five.
Letting your silence be your pause instead of your guilt.
Allowing yourself to not respond immediately.
A Gentle Reframe
Boundaries are not barriers. They are invitations for people to meet you with respect.
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